Maybe Because by Aimee Garcia-Tice

A new Australian Children’s book about adoption from the perspective of “the best boy in the whole wide world” was launched in Sydney in 2010 at the same time as National Adoption Awareness Week that year.

There is a huge gap in positive adoption stories here in Australia so Aimee Garcia-Tice and Serena Geddes have provided a great resource for kids and families to start and encourage the adoption conversation. But it need not be restricted to adoptive families as it is, simply, a great little kids book full of adventure and imagination. Grab a copy from The Book Depository or Amazon for your kids!

NB: illustration linked from best little boys website.

Myths about Adoption

Adoption by Choice, Erie PA

National Adoption Awareness Week aims to demystify the issues around adoption, raise awareness and acknowledge all parties in adoption. Part of that aim is to dispel the “Myths of Adoption.

Adoptive parents in Australia identified the top ten myths they have to deal with when talking with family, friends and passers-by in the shopping centre that can’t resist asking “Whose child is that?

Here’s a list of the top 10 myths along with links to my brief thoughts on each.

10. Birth Mothers get on with their life after giving up a child

9.  Love is enough to be an adoptive parent

8.  You have to be rich to adopt

7.  Adoption is only for rich infertile people

6.  Celebrities can fast track adoption

5.  Adoption is buying a baby

4.  They’re Aussies now!

3.  Adoption is a 2nd best option

2.  Adoptive parents are saints (because they saved! the child)

1.  Adopted children are lucky

Education, communication and participation of all parties involved is the way forward to de-mythologising adoption and removing the stigma from talking about the real issues met by parents, children, adults, adoptive families and their extended families, networks and community. Have you come across any of these myths? How did you respond?

An Adoptee Investing in Champions

National Adoption Awareness Week in Australia kicks off today, November 11. Recent discussions surrounding adoption often centre on the struggle of adoptive parents to start or extend their family. However, much more needs to be done to invest with empathy and care for all parties involved in an adoption, particularly the birth parents (especially the mum) and child. This week I’ll post some blog articles dealing with these aspects of adoption.

All children need time and maturity to process and reflect upon the experiences that contribute to their character. How a child of 6 answers a question differs greatly to when they are 26 or 46. Investing in our children, adopted, biological, fostered or wards of the state, with the tools to build and own their identity as confident, fulfilled adults is a prime concern of any parent or guardian. A commitment to the best and highest interests of the child is a commitment to the future of our culture and society. We debate the best way to go about that. Often those debates are charged with intense anger and grief, much of which remains to be addressed justly and compassionately. In this post, I want to introduce you to an adult adoptee and let you hear his side of the story.

Troy Matthews, or Dr. Matthews as he is better known today, was Dean of Students at my Bible College and was also Associate Pastor at my church in 1989/90. Troy was adopted at birth and always spoke openly, positively and generously about his experience. Although I was only 17 years old when I was one of his students and not really thinking about my future family too much at the time, his example influenced me significantly when the time came that my wife and I were considering adopting. His story continues to influence how I talk to my daughter about her adoption.

There are some heart-breaking stories of cases where adoption hasn’t been approached sensitively or lovingly (towards both the child and the birth parents). Unfortunately, some of those stories get a little more air time than the great majority of ones where children and families flourish through their experience with adoption. Troy is a fantastic example of a man who not only flourished, but is now helping others flourish also.

Together for Adoption recently published Troy’s story:

Troy was born to a young mother in Snyder, Texas, and because of the closed adoption he doesn’t know much more than that about his fraternal parents. Simultaneously to this woman’s pregnancy, a young couple had battled several miscarriages and were urged by a local pastor in Snyder to consider adoption – particularly the adoption of Troy. They quickly realized that this was their “gift from God.”

Today, Troy puts it in his own words, “They were his gift from God.” …

Dr. Matthews is now a professor of “Contemporary Issues”, a course required by all majors at Liberty. The subject matter directly approaches one’s world view – affirming a Biblical world view and also applying it. Topics such as adoption, abortion, and a Christian’s moral responsibility to such topics and understanding of absolute truth’s found in Scripture. These courses are designed to affirm a believers responsibility to the world around them.

If you’re in Australia and considering investing in adoption, National Adoption Awareness Week can give you the starting point. Click on the link for your state to find out more. If you have already been involved with Adoption there are many opportunities for networking and support with other families and adoptees.

USA readers can check out the links on the Together for Adoption site and Karen’s Adoption Links has information for other countries.

Troy is “a champion, … reinvesting in others to be young champions as well. – just as (he) was invested in.” How are you investing in children and their families?

A 54 year adventure

Tomorrow my wonderful wife and I will have been married for 54 years.

This is a special blessing because in February, 2009 she was told she had about 3 months to live, her liver was in the final stages of failure. By God’s grace, in answer to many of your prayers, the Lord used non traditional medicine and a doctor who has several Phd’s and his insight and knowledge.

Karen is still with us.

She does not remember much of 2009 and parts of 2010, she was in the ER 9 times in 15 months, had 3 long hospital stays, a heart attack, and diabetes.

My daughter Nanette has worked overtime with us to insure Karen was taken care of in the proper manner.

I just want to praise the Lord for her still being here. She just spent 2 weeks helping Nanette and her 4 boys get ready to go to Kazakhstan and Kirgizstan and spend two weeks teaching missionary children while their parents are in a retreat.  Karen painted, drew, sewed, showed the boys how to present a lesson, the oldest Nathan feels he is called into the ministry and has preached several times, the other boys have no experience in this kind of work, so their granny taught them how.   As many of you know she is one of the best at teacher training.

They left on Sunday, on the way home from the airport with eyes filled with tears, she said to me, “I can’t go and do it anymore, but I can still help others get the job done.”  She does not like going to Missions conference, it breaks her heart because she can no  longer go herself. She always leaves with a broken heart and many tears.

Once again, all this is possible because of God’s grace, your prayers and support.

Anyone who knows us will agree, she is the reason we have had ANY success in our ministry, she is the heart, conscience, and force that accomplished what we have done. I married way beyond myself, if anything I have held her back.

It has been an 54 year adventure, and I would change very little if I had the chance.

Sam Keller

Defend The Orphan – Wall Street Journal

Although I often make ‘tongue-in-cheek’ criticisms of our northern friends living in the so-called ‘land of the free and home of the brave’, I was impressed by the Wall Street Journal article about adoption. It is in part a encouragement (if not endorsement of) to John McCain to take a stand on matters relating to adoption as an opportunity to promote “adoption is part of a holistic sanctity-of-human-life ethic”. However it reveals that the anti-adoption philosophy so entrenched in Australian society is prevalent also in America.

The opening paragraph is something that Australian authorities should seriously consider:

In 1993, the McCains adopted a daughter from Mother Teresa’s orphanage in Bangladesh, and the senator has co-sponsored legislation to aid adoption, including measures that would provide tax credits for expenses and would remove barriers to interracial and interethnic adoption.

The self-appointed politically-correct authorities here in Australia, whilst claiming to have the “best interests of the child in mind” when managing and screening applicants for adopting also have onerous and obstructive policies. In our experience, rather than encouraging and promoting adoption as a valid means of creating or extending a family, they to seek to prevent as many as possible from adopting. Thereby denying orphaned / relinquished / abandoned children the world over the opportunities to grow up in a loving, nurturing, family environment. The result of their argument is that it is better for the child to remain in their own culture and continue to suffer a life of poverty, slavery, abuse, neglect etc.

The WSJ article, as also alluded to by Al Mohler yesterday, also mentions the contradiction of these same authorities when it comes to dealing with racial discrimination. The do-right-ers who want a society of tolerance, peace and harmony are the same pundits who regularly oppose trans-racial and cross cultural adoptions. Quoting a Ms Rosati:

“Both are saying the same thing, ‘Segregation now, segregation tomorrow, segregation forever.’ And both pretend they’re just being realistic about racial discrimination.”

Join the cause Defend the orphan and help all children reach their God given potential!