Is your porn addiction showing?

Porn can devastate a marriage. There is a much that has been written on that. Too much, sadly. But what about when the woman is the one addicted to fantasies that affect her relationship with her husband?

Betsy Hart calls it ‘Romantic Pornography‘.

Just as sexual pornography twists an understanding for men about real women’s bodies and sexual appetites, so romantic pornography twists the perception for women about real men and how they “ought” to behave toward women …

She makes the bold point that this is something that is not only tolerated but encouraged as a guide to normality… for men!

Mainstream culture tolerates this insidious expectation for men to act like women. Any doubts? A married couple goes to a counselor, Christian or otherwise. The husband is steeped in sexual porn and dissatisfied with his wife. Is there a chance the counselor is going to encourage the wife to act more like the women her husband finds attractive online? Of course not.

Now let’s say she’s steeped in romantic films and dissatisfied with her husband. There’s an almost 100 percent chance the counselor will encourage the fellow to be more romantic and sensitive. Which might be a fine thing, except that typically it will be “sensitive” according to his wife’s definition, even if that’s not what he is wired for.

3 thoughts on “Is your porn addiction showing?

  1. Women certainly can be addicted just as much as much…although the stats of their addiction aren’t as great..but we too often forget that this issue touches everyone in our culture. No one is immune.

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